After this summer I will be heading into 8th grade. Last year in 7th
grade, I felt like NO ONE had a clue who I was, but everyone knew who
my best friend was. Also, every guy in the grade liked my BFF! I love
my best girl and all, but seeing that she was pretty much a celebrity
at our school and I was just a blade of grass gives me very low
confidence and self esteem.
Next year I would really like a little more confidence and popularity
and date a normal guy. What should I do? Grow my hair out and get
highlights? Dress better? All I need is advice on how to be more
confident.
Hey chica,
Whoa there! No need to do anything too drastic! It's true that to be
popular you need confidence, but that doesn't mean you've gotta change
yourself entirely. Everyone has different ways of gaining confidence,
so the trick is to find what works best for you. Keep reading to check
out different ways to gain confidence.
First off, try using imitation. No, this doesn't mean you should try
to be something you're not. Instead, observe how the popular kids are
confident. Then, see if you have a similar aspect that can help you
with your confidence. For example, think about your friend for a
moment. What made her so confident that everyone liked her? Was it the
way she treated others? The way she talked? Sense of humor? In other
words, take a good look at others and then a good look at yourself to
find a part of you that people can admire.
Now you might be thinking, what if it was her looks that gave her
popularity and confidence? If that is what you're thinking, then
don't. Anyone can have the latest clothes, pretty makeup, or silky
hair, but that doesn't give you any of the things you want. It's how
comfortable you feel in your skin that determines how you carry
yourself and how confident you feel around others. You can change the
way you look on the outside (and c'mon, who doesn't like a change now
and then?), just don't rely on that to change how you feel inside.
After you find what makes you feel comfortable, it's time to do a
little makeover inside your head. For instance, the most important
part about confidence is optimism. Tell yourself that anything is
possible and stay positive. Believing that you are a blade of grass
won't help. Believe that you are so much more and don't let your BFF's
popularity get to you. That's something that's not under your control
and something that shouldn't affect the way you feel inside.
Finally, when school starts up again, don't limit yourself to the
people you know. Join a new club and sit at different lunch tables
every now and then. This will let you practice your confidence around
others and let others know how great you are.
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