Let's say you've met a great girl, and you want to spend
more time with her. But what if she's seeing someone else,
or is in a serious relationship? You can still ask her out,
provided you don't mind rejection and if you keep the
following recommendations in mind.
!! Steps !!
She's lovely but she's taken... or is she? Try to find out how
serious she is about the person she's dating. Are they dating
casually? Or are they in an exclusive relationship? The easiest way
to find out is to be direct: "Do you have a boyfriend?" or "Are you
single?" If she says she doesn't have a boyfriend, or that she is
single, just ask her out normally. Just because she's gone on a few
dates with someone doesn't mean she can't go on a date with someone
else. Pssst... is he really right for you? If she's in a
relationship, one thing you can do is be bold and ask her if she's
happy. Or, ask her if she loves him. If you sense any hesitation, ask
her out, making sure to let her know you won't overstep boundaries:
* "I haven't known you for that long, but you seem really cool, and
you haven't convinced me that you're happy with your guy. Why
don't we go out and talk? I won't make any moves. I respect that
you're in a relationship. I just want to get to know you better,
and figure out why an awesome girl like you would stay with
someone who doesn't make her completely happy. Want to get a cup
of coffee?"
* "Look, maybe I'm being arrogant here and tell me to pull my head
in if you wish, but you don't seem to be all that sure about how
you feel about this guy. A girl like you should be with someone
whom she's passionate about. Why don't we go out and talk? I won't
make any moves. I can respect that you're in a relationship. Let's
meet for drinks later, okay?"
Give her your number Another approach is to give her your contact
information, telling her it's just in case she becomes single. You
can ask her if she's happy or if she loves him, as discussed in the
previous step, and simply hand her your number (or email address) if
she hesitates or refuses to catch up with you now. Or, skip straight
to giving her a way to contact you: "Here's my number. If things
don't work out between you and that guy, call me and I'll take you
out to dinner." If she's loyal to her relationship, or simply not
interested, she'll throw your contact information away. But if she's
interested, and her relationship is on the rocks, she might get in
touch after they break up and you've done no harm just trying.
Take great care to steer clear of the friend zone. Just because
she's in a relationship doesn't mean you can't make your romantic
intentions clear, or else you might become the brotherly shoulder
she cries on whenever there's trouble in paradise. Continue to
remind her that you want to date her, you _don't_ just want to be
her friend (that is, you don't want to wait in the wings). And if
she seems to be stringing you along, for example, she says she
wants you around, but she stays with her boyfriend nonetheless,
move on. Unless you're content being someone's backup, don't put
yourself in line for being hurt; realize that even if they do
break up down the track, she might decide "I don't want to ruin
our friendship" or she just might want to be single for a while.
* I thought I could trust you! Avoid becoming a side dish.
If she seems to really like you, demand that she break off the
relationship before you do anything with her. If she cheats on him
with you, not only is that pretty low on your part, but that
brings her entire trustworthiness into question. And if she seems
willing to cheat on her boyfriend, you might want to reconsider
whether you want to be in a relationship with someone who's ready
and willing to violate someone's trust because next time, it could
be you at the receiving end of her unfaithfulness.
!! Video !!
!! Tips !!
* If you find out she's in a relationship, a flirtatious thing to
ask smilingly would be "Is it, by any chance, an _open_
relationship?"
!! Warnings !!
* Make sure her boyfriend isn't actually _around_ when you ask her
out.
* Although a boyfriend who trusts his girlfriend and treats her well
has nothing to worry about, some boyfriends might feel threatened
by your advances (if he hears about them) and might tell (or
threaten) you to back off.
!! Related WikiHows !!
* How to Ask a Girl Out
* How to Break Up a Couple
* How to Have a Rebound Relationship
* How to Touch a Girl
* How to Get a Friend to Stop Hitting on Your Date
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