Psychic vampires (psi-vampires) are said to be people who
drain "life force" or will from a susceptible person.[1]
There are different definitions for a psychic vampire, and
for what constitutes your "life force". In this article, it
is assumed that a psychic vampire refers to the persons in
your life who seem to be all take and no give, who drain
your energies through relentless demands and taking
advantage of you, leaving you feeling vulnerable, exhausted,
and run down. It should also be recognized that not all of
those who could be viewed as psychic vampires are
necessarily bad; it may be that you've a lot to learn about
not letting people take advantage of you so easily or that
friends of yours who drain you haven't learned to control
their overly energetic nature. In this article, you'll get a
good start at learning to deal with psychic vampires.
!! Steps !!
Identify when someone is behaving in a way that undermines your
energy or exploits you while fulfilling their own needs. There are
intentional and non-intentional psychic vampires, namely people who
purposefully seek to drain energy from another person to serve their
own ends and those who don't mean harm but connect too strongly with
others and drain them without realizing.
* Conscious or intentional psychic vampires are manipulative people
who seek to take all they can from others without ever giving in
return. When pressed, they rarely give away information in any
detail and refuse to build up much of a picture of their own lives
but live under an aura of mystery and aloofness.[2] They may claim
to be able to do fantastical things, like being able to live
forever, able to move things with thoughts, or put out fires
through thought, etc.,[3] but when pressed, they won't provide
much evidence.[4] They are often arrogant, angry, and controlling;
they'll also try to befriend leaders or powerful people in order
to use these people as part of their manipulative influence.
They'll often insist that they're right, period, and won't listen
to your perspective but will argue theirs eternally.
* Unknowing or non-intentional psychic vampires are people who
manage to drain your energy through constant questioning and
seeking ideas from you without really contributing anything novel
of their own. They're often disorganized people who might be
really lovely to know and incredibly intelligent but who never
manage to sort out their own life and expect your help to achieve
this all the time. As soon as a pattern is set, they're lulled
into expecting you'll always be on hand to help them.
* Both types of psi-vampires tend to see the world negatively and
bring forth complaints as conversation starters. This is so that
they can start to drain you of your energy and draw from your
positive reactions and solutions.[5]
Know yourself. People most prone to being drained of energy by
others are people whose own boundaries are weak or ill-defined,
and who tend to be people pleasers, unwilling to say "no" and
afraid of ever being seen to let down anyone else.
* Get yourself checked out by a doctor before blaming people around
you for "draining your energy". You might have ME, chronic fatigue
syndrome, fibromyalgia, poor nutrition, or any other underlying
medical condition that needs treatment. Granted, it may be
worsened by hanging around energy-draining psi-vampires but you
have the upper hand in fixing it if you know you've got it.
* Talk to a counselor or therapist if you have problems with your
emotions, feelings, and interactions with other people.
* Improve your fitness and immune system. If your physical strength
and immune system are under par, you'll naturally feel more
vulnerable to a lot of life's vicissitudes, and this can leave you
open to people who prey on weaknesses. Eat healthily, exercise
regularly, and maintain your overall health.
Find powerful ways to resist. The most powerful word is "no".
Instead of allowing yourself to remain a doormat or a people
pleaser, learn to say "no" when you're not able to fulfill a
request or demand, or you're simply not interested in doing what
the other person wants of you.
* If your assertiveness skills are lacking, a psi-vampire
personality will seek you out. Improve them by reading up on how
to be more assertive and seeing a counselor to guide you if
needed.
* Avoid people who drain your energy. Work out which people leave
you feeling washed out and used up and do your best to avoid them.
If you can't do that and you're cornered by them, avoid answering
their questions or probing. In refusing to provide much by the way
of information, they'll soon pass on to someone else.[6]
* Be polite to psychic vampires who are in positions of authority,
such as a boss or community leader. Be evasive about giving them
information you're not willing to provide and only do what's
required of you in your role. If at work, try to work away from a
person like this as much as possible. Never tell them what to do
but stand up for your own methods by telling them you respect
their approach but find yours works too.
* Be particularly vigilant with people who know the effect they're
having. Dr van Neumig considers this person the most dangerous
type of psychic vampire because he or she is manipulative,
devious, cunning, and power-hungry.[7] Such a person won't
hesitate to use you for their own ends and to discard you when you
work out what's going on. However, rather than fearing such a
situation, you owe it to yourself to not be gullible or blindsided
by such a person; always stay alert to any signs of a person
trying to control you by wearing you down and listening to your
gut feeling about not wanting to follow through on anything such a
person suggests.
Find help from someone skilled in dealing with psychic vampires.
There are healing arts practitioners who claim to be skilled at
helping others to deal with psi-vampires effectively.
Don't believe that this person has a right to control your life.
Power granted to another to control your life will usually be
abused. By taking responsibility for your own life and removing
the hold that the other person has over you, you will destroy the
link that binds you to the psychic vampire.
* Believe that this person has no ability to harm or control you.
Keep thinking this all of the time and it will rebound on the
psychic vampire.[8]
Find other ways to shield yourself from the psychic connection with
this person.
* Wear colors of protection. Purple is the color associated with
psychic protection.[9] Wear a purple piece of clothing, or
jewelery to ward off the psychic vibes.
* Build a psychic wall of protection around yourself, or a bubble of
light. Seek to have their negativity and draining bounce off this
wall whenever you're interacting with them.[10] Read books or
articles on how to develop or build psychic protection – there
are many possible ways.
* Give this person a humorous warning that you're up to their tricks
– a rope of garlic, a small wooden stake, etc.[11] Add a card
with a quirky message like "Quit draining me". While you're being
funny, the other person will probably be offended by this, so
expect to be burning a bridge between the two of you, as psychic
vampires rarely have a sense of humor.
* Be responsible for yourself. Ultimately, it's unsatisfactory to
move through life seeking to blame others for how you're feeling
and to postpone your own responsibility to self-improve. While
there are manipulative and difficult psi-vampire types out there,
you're not helping by insisting it's all their fault. If you're
putting life on hold and letting someone else direct it for you or
push you where you'd rather not go, move past spotting the demons
around you and start checking out the ones within. Demolish them
and the psi-vampires won't alight on your doorstep anymore.
!! Tips !!
* Some psi-vampires are very similar to persons with narcissistic
personality disorders, particularly those who seek to manipulate
and divide and conquer in order to get what they want out of life.
Reading up on that disorder will help you to spot and deflect that
type of psi-vampire.
* Psychic vampires are also known as emotional vampires,
psi-vampires, or PVs.[12]
* Avoid adopting a victim mentality, and keep this all in
perspective. Finding a scapegoat for your bad reactions can become
a learned habit of its own that you're better off unlearning. Many
draining personalities have their own weaknesses and inabilities
to draw boundaries, which is probably why they're attracted to
another person with ill-defined boundaries and vulnerabilities.
Perhaps you're peas in a pod needling one another's weaknesses
because you both know them only too well.
!! Warnings !!
* Don't fob off a psi-vampire onto someone else you know just to get
the psi-vampire off your back. With care, warn other people
targeted by the psi-vampire and support them to keep out of this
person's clutches.
* Try to avoid psi-vampires online. You'll know them by the fact
that you feel sickened constantly when interacting with them and
all they ever feed you are complaints and negativity.[13]
* Be mindful of the possibility that you might just be a psi-vampire
yourself even if you're feeling somewhat a victim. If you're the
type of person who drains others (have you checked?), it's still
possible to be drained by other drainers in what becomes a sort of
vicious cycle whereby each of you feeds off one another for an
energy refill, draining one another. Be the first to break the
cycle!
!! Things You'll Need !!
* Books and materials on self-esteem building or assertiveness
!! Related WikiHows !!
* How to Be Assertive
* How to Communicate in an Assertive Manner
* How to Go from Passive to Assertive
* How to Build Self Confidence
!! Sources And Citations !!
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