In this modern age, family closeness has been
threatened by a competitive culture and great
technological change. Many families are suffering
from such issues as separation, turmoil,
selfishness and for some, domestic violence.
Traditional education within the family and
neighbourhood structure has been overtaken by
television.
While television in moderation can play a positive role in children's
lives, excessive viewing and using the television as a babysitter has
resulted in children learning predominantly negative values, including
the presentation of a false idea of what equates to happiness and
fulfilment. When the whole family is swayed by the false ideology of
pursuing outer happiness at the expense of inner contemplation,
everyone feels unhappiness. In this article, you'll learn how to begin
shaping a spiritually happy family.
!! Steps !!
Create a family identity. Forging a family
identity together can create a sense of cohesion
and purpose as a family. Begin by finding a
family motto that each member of the family has
contributed to, whether by way of words, ideas,
or reflections.
* What will your family motto be? Write a family vision statement.
Describe your family's goals and dreams. Also write down what your
family likes to do.
Work together. A happy family depends on
teamwork. Every member of the family should
feel that he or she has a stake in wanting to
have a happy family life. Create guidelines in
your family for how you can work together as a
team.
* Start with simple chores and work your way up to shared vacation
plans and learning new things together.
Nurture your children's positive features. The
first step to guiding your children to become
resilient is to foster positive values. The
most important values are love, wisdom, self
discipline, inner peace and happiness.
* Explain to your family that the property of love means that you
are positive to yourself, to your family, and to the whole world.
Encourage each of your children to live for the happiness of all
beings and, at the same time, develop their own happiness.
* Show children that wisdom is to live healthily, to think
positively, to read spiritual books, and to relax often enough. As
a parent, recognise that it is difficult to educate some children
to wisdom when they like to eat sweets, watch TV, and do only what
they want to. As children grow, they are in a constant struggle
between short- and long-term thinking, and as a parent, it is your
role to guide them in learning how to tune into their deeper
selves, to delay instant gratification, and to realise the virtues
of self-discipline.
Turn your children into winners. Ally yourself
with the wisdom within your children and
strengthen their predominantly positive
characteristics. The best approach is to
emphasize the positive actions and traits and
to ignore their negative behaviour, if this is
possible.
* Lead by example: be strong, clear, and show them the value of
freedom to make choices and to think for themselves. Children
learn primarily by watching positive role models, with education
supplementing what they have already learned from those they trust
and love the most.
Create the environment for inner peace. Inner
peace is very important for every family.
Protect your children from sensory overload,
which means in particular, protecting them from
too much television.
* One hour of quality TV per day is the maximum amount suitable for
children. While it would be even better to abolish the TV, few
families have the courage to go to this extent. Instead, be sure
to provide your children with regular and clear structures within
the family environment. Through instituting routine and good
examples in the household, peace will descend upon the family and
your children will immediately pick up on the change for the
better.
* Encourage and guide your children to implement their own sense of
self-discipline. A long-term positive and fulfilling life is only
possible when we grow into adults with a sound sense of
self-discipline, and the sooner you are able to provide the means
for this in their lives, the better.
* Read How to raise no TV children, How to get your children away
from TV, and How to set television rules for your kids.
Anchor all thoughts in the positive. Encourage
all family members to learn to pay attention to
their thoughts. Do this by having regular
honest discussions, positive activities, and
positive rituals, such as eating together,
telling stories, reading spiritual books,
singing songs, saying prayers, and practising
meditation, etc.
* In your family, avoid succumbing to using consumption as a means
of activity and reward; rather, look for inspiration in seeking
inner happiness through non-material pursuits and through living
one another, and spending time together.
* Help each family member work through their spiritual concerns and
needs; give each family member clear points of reference to work
from in order to avoid confusion. This will include explaining
your own beliefs, and being honest about the shortcomings of many
modern day promises of happiness.
Work with a spiritual role model. In addition
to consistently focusing on your child's
positive actions and efforts as a means to
building their inner resilience and confidence,
it is vital to provide your child with a
specific spiritual role model. Ultimately,
having a spiritual role model provides your
child with a sense of support and purpose to
draw on when seeking to lead a positive life.
Most people need the inspiration of a positive
role model to walk the long path of inner
happiness.
* The model is the consolidation of all positive qualities in one
person. It shows us that it is possible to realize inner happiness
and to lead a happy life. There are many different models for the
path of inner happiness. Find those role models who inspire our
children personally.
* Be sure that to include positive stories. The story books are full
of good stories, and often it is the stories that help a child
relate to a particular spiritual model. Tell these stories by
heart, or read them aloud. Or devise stories yourself. Find
stories in which the model wins over all the bad guys in the
world, helps the weak and realizes enlightenment (a life in God,
Goddess Yoga, find the great treasure), etc.
!! Video !!
!! Tips !!
* Spiritually attuned people tend to be happier than unspiritual
persons.[1] The greatest gift we can give our children is a
spiritual upbringing. In doing so, we enable them to be the
masters of their own life. We give them the knowledge of the path
of inner happiness, and we empower them to a happy and positive
life.
* A wise education is neither too harsh nor too liberal. It sets
clear boundaries and yet, at the same time, gives the child
sufficient space for self-determination. In the long term, the
goal is to let each child find his or her own way, while you
continue to assume the responsibility as a parent to ensure a
positive upbringing.
* Each family will need to exercise its own form of spiritual
practice. For example, find your own spiritual ledger, your own
role models and your own rituals (daily exercise). Develop a form
of spirituality in which you feel comfortable and that suits the
family.
* In spiritual practice, it is important that we stay in touch with
our inner truth. And the daily practice must not be an empty
ritual; instead be creative and constantly change to keep it
vital, such as finding new words, or trying out new exercises, so
that the feeling remains genuine. Only true feelings cause
spiritual growth. Only mantras (prayers, reading, meditation) with
a real sense of participation lead us to self-realization.
!! Things You\'ll Need !!
* Activities and games
* Positive stories, spiritual stories
* Goals and chore lists
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!! Sources And Citations !!
* http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Family – research source
* http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m0826/is_n1_v8/ai_11702650/
– research source
* http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Happiness – research source
* http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enlightenment_(spiritual – research
source
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