How much does it cost to keep your friends and family happy?
Do you find yourself with one foot out the door when things don't go
your way?
What is your exit strategy for an unhappy relationship?
Brian Tracey tells sales people and business owners, "If the grass
is always greener, then you must not be fertilizing your own grass
enough."
It ALWAYS costs more to get a new customer than it does to keep one.
Why would this be different in our personal lives? The common
denominator is usually the problem. In this case, the common
denominator is YOU.
Tony Robbins says, "The quality of your life is in direct proportion
to the quality of your relationships." Is this statement true? Are
the most important "clients" (people) in your life those you have
invested with through time, energy and love?
Why is it we can always find time for financial demands, but postpone
that fun lunch or girls night out because we have too many things to
do? What if you shifted your priorities and started focusing 80% of
your time to that which puts juice back into your life?
What would your friends and loved ones do if you rolled out the red
carpet for them, every day?
*Start By Defining Who You Can Not Live Without*
While you may be extremely social and have many layers of friends such
us church friends, gym buddies, work friends, parents at your kids'
schools, etc., take a look at each group, and list who you would miss
the most. Who adds so much value to YOUR life that you'd have a
set back, and feel devastated without? (Here's a tip…if this list
is longer than five to seven people for any group, outside of your
immediate family, you are too needy or simply don't understand the
task. I know you don't want to lose ANYONE, but for each group,
who would you pull from the burning building first, besides your
immediate family?)
*Define the Importance of Each Group*
What groups bring you the most joy? Is it your church friends? How
about work pals? Or, do you like hanging with the neighbors?
Rank each group by how much they fulfill your needs. Compare your
ranking with how much time you spend with each group. This is a
great opportunity to compare how you spend your time with how you want
to spend your life. Start planning your personal life just as you do
your business. A conversation with people who mean little to you
equates to you planning, scheduling and choosing a jam-packed day of
business meetings that serve no purpose and blatantly waste your time!
*Define Your Expectations Of The Relationship*
Look at your list, and decide what they bring you and what they expect
in return? Easier said than done, but you must do it.
_Why?_
Like clients, not all friends are created equal. Some take more than
they give and some give more than they take. You must walk a fine
line to balance these relationships, letting the connection serve you,
rather than you serving the connection. Make sure you get out what
you put in. Or, find out why you don't.
If you can't improve a relationship, ask yourself why you're in
it? Your friends may feed some sickness or dysfunction in your life,
but you can't make a change if you don't see it. All
relationships might not always feel fair, but they should be
equitable, meaning everyone is getting out of it what they put into
it.
Their effort might not be equal, but the pay off is equal to the
efforts, respectively. (I once heard someone say, "As long as you
never fall out of love at the same time, you'll be fine!")
*Find New Friends*
It's time to get real. As Tony Robbins also teaches, "You
can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends." He is
adamant your peer group will build or break you. To raise your bar in
life, surround yourself with like-minded people who believe in driving
at the same speed you do. They certainly don't have to go to the
same destination, as that would be a little boring. But, if you
believe in integrity, showing people you care, and being reliable, so
should your friends.
If you are the one setting the bar, you might want to ask yourself,
"Who is pushing me?" If the answer is no one, look at your groups
and determine which ones you enjoy the most. How can you find someone
you admire and mode? How can you connect with a new person who could
improve your life?
In order to roll out the red carpet for your inner circle, you have to
know who they are and what they need. You must be willing to give it
everything you have and then some. Don't waste precious time on
relationships that don't matter while the ones that do are left to
pay the bill. The people who love you the most, are the ones you
trust the most. If you trust them not to hurt you and always watch
your back, sometimes you don't treat them as well as you do those
who love you less.
Always bump your inner circle to the front of the line and make sure
their name is ALWAYS on the list.
_Lori Taylor is a_ _direct marketing specialist_ [1] _and_ _personal
development writer._ [2] _Follow her on_ _Twitter_ [3]_._
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